Episode 78: Pursuing Your Passion: Starting Where You Are With What You Have
Chasing your dreams is such a catchy phrase right now. People are always telling you to pursue your passions and chase your dreams, but what does that actually look like while you continue with your other roles in life, like being a mom, a wife, a worker, a friend, a student, etc.? This week we're thrilled to share some insight into how this is working for someone in real life. We're joined by Jeanette Tapley, host of the "It's Time For Coffee" podcast and she's sharing her best tips and tricks for how to start where you are with what you have. If you've been looking for a kick in the pants to stop lallygagging and start working, this episode is for you!
- You have the time- you just have to make it. You may have to give up extraneous, mindless activities like watching tv or scrolling through Instagram, but you make time for what you value.
- Learning a new skill and embarking on new projects is fun! You can't change unless you put yourself out there, which can be scary, but on the other side of that fear is a more fulfilling life. Switching your mindset from fear to fun is a game changer.
- Find your cheerleaders. Building something from nothing is empowering, but it isn't always glamorous. You need to have people in your corner cheering for you and spurring you on and reminding you why you started. If you have someone you can delegate tasks to, do that. If not, let your friends and family encourage you every step of the way.
- There is going to be guilt along the way- there's always something else you could be doing (or something you'd rather be doing). A yes to something means a no to something else. It can be easy to let that guilt stop you in your tracks, but DON'T LET IT. Those around you will see you making the conscious choice of pursuing something bigger and better and though it might not be the easiest choice in the moment, you're setting a good example for them along the way. Plus, if you don't start saying no to things to create space for your passions now, you'll never create enough room for it to bloom and grow.
- It can look sloppy because starting isn't pretty. Nothing is ever going to look at polished as you want it to be in the beginning, but done is better than perfect. You have to get comfortable learning on the job.
- Keeping your dream a secret until it's time to reveal it to the world can be a helpful tool to keep you from getting talked out of it. Sure, collaborate with others who will help you along the way, but if you're prone to being easily swayed by the opinions of all your family and friends, don't tell them until it's too late to turn back.
- Pursuing your passion means trade offs. You may not get to cook dinner for your family every night, but guess what? That's what grocery delivery and cleaning services are for. You can't be all things to all people. If your house gets cleaned by someone else or someone else bought your groceries, it's still getting cleaned and food is still getting on the table. Focus your energy on the things that only you can do.
- Be super honest with yourself and with your family about the time and space you need to get things done. But keep people in your life who are your "yes people." No matter what you're doing, these are the people you stop and chat with or meet up with for coffee. Having these people keeps you from getting swamped and drowning in your own little world.