Episode 55: Small Ways To Pursue Your Spouse
With Valentine's Day approaching this week, we have love on our minds. And while this holiday tells us we need all the chocolates and diamonds and flowers, we know a relationship can't survive on one grand romantic gesture a year- it's the little things done over time that add up. This week we're discussing all the small ways you can pursue your significant other throughout the year so you don't experience that "oh shoot" moment when you forgot to get him a card the night before February 14th.
- Do the chore you both hate (taking out the trash is the ULTIMATE sign of love at the Aldinger house).
- Anticipate a need by doing the little things- whether that's starting the shower or turning on the lamp before the other person gets in bed.
- Lemme pour you a drank... but seriously. Having the other person's favorite drink (be it whiskey on the rocks or a big ole glass of iced tea) ready when they walk in the door is a simple, yet profound way to say "love you, mean it." Luke Aldinger wins the PRIZE for doing this for me.
- Leave simple love notes around the house. This doesn't have to be letter pouring out your undying love but a simple "have fun on your trip!" note in his suitcase before he leaves on a trip or "sorry we can't eat together tonight but here are the fixings for some nachos. luv you." communicates forethought and love.
- Touch each other's butts. Okay, don't make this weird. What I'm really trying to say is, don't let your playful side die just because you're in a long term relationship. Stay playful and fun and remind yourselves that life isn't just going to work, cleaning the house, and paying bills.
- Take time to reconnect at the end of the day or end of the week. This can be so hard to put into practice when everything in me just wants to get in a hot bath and not talk to anyone for 45 minutes. But, taking that time to come together and reconnect and remind yourselves that you're on the same team is so valuable. Whether this looks like sitting on your porch with a glass of wine one night a week or getting in bed and having a quick conversation 10 minutes before you go to bed at night, coming back together after living your separate lives puts you back on the same track.
- Engage in an activity your guy likes. Not to say you have to go fishing with him every weekend, but every once in a while showing an interest in one of his hobbies, especially if he asks, can go a long way.
- Listen when he talks. This goes back to that whole reconnecting theme. Whether you're married to a strong silent type or a verbal processor, one of the most fundamental ways to show you care is by listening to what your partner has to say with your undivided attention.
- Say yes. Even when you have your heart set on staying home to clean your bathroom or catching up on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, if you get a call for a spontaneous pizza date night, don't pass up that opportunity. If you say no too many times, the other person will eventually stop asking.
- And finally, the ultimate not-so-small way to show your love and commitment is to have your husband's baby. No, we're not saying to get yourself pregnant to show your devotion or salvage a relationship (as a matter of fact, DON'T DO THAT) but what we are saying is... KB IS HAVING A BABY!! 3 cheers for Baby Baty making his//her debut this summer!
- If you're interested in the making marriage great devotional we mentioned, here's the link to check that out!