Episode 25: Why Don't You Like This Comforter: And Other Surprising Things About Marriage
In light of KA’s upcoming wedding anniversary and KB’s ever present desire to talk about marriage, that’s exactly what we’re doing in this episode. We realize we aren’t quite in the position to give sage advice, rather, we reflect on the surprising things we’ve learned in our short time being married. Whether you someday hope to be married, marriage is in your near future, or you’ve been married for awhile, we hope there’s something in this episode everyone can resonate with.
Men have opinions about how things in your house are decorated. Like, obviously it’s half their house, too, but it’s surprising when your husband second guesses your super cute Kate Spade bedding that you got on sale for 60% off.
It’s surprising how much you can enjoy having someone else around. Especially coming from an introvert who values her alone time, it’s remarkable how much you can enjoy having someone around all the time without wanting to pull your hair out and have six months of alone time.
Never underestimate the power of your spouse’s influence. This is a power that can be harnessed for good or evil and play out in a multitude of ways. Let’ take food to start with. If one of you is motivated to eat healthy, the other can cheer you on and get behind your efforts. However, if one person is starting to waver and the other suggests a trip to Whataburger, it’s all downhill from there.
Men have lots of laundry. Like a lot. Weekend, meet laundry. Your weekend plans will never be the same.
Compromising how you spend your money is good character building. The ultimate sign of true love in when you go to Target and let your husband buy clothes and you don’t even try to sneak one thing from the dollar section into your cart. However, you can’t help but calculate how many new shirts you could buy at The Loft for the price of one suit...
What’s mine is yours and what’s yours is ours (name that movie). Your car is OUR car- you share things now. Going forward, whatever decisions or purchases you make are collective, and not individual.
Splitting time between families for holidays is something to navigate. Whether you have a great relationship with your in-laws or you’re dealing with a Monster in Law situation, having to divvy up your time between each other’s families is challenging no matter how much you prepare for it ahead of time.
When you get married, you learn that you can indeed get on someone’s nerves. You may be surprised that leaving the washcloth draped over the bathroom sink isn’t as adorable as you might think. He may be surprised to learn that leaving water droplets across the bathroom floor is actually a death trap.
Meshing styles of doing things is HARD. Some things are worth the fight and some things need to just be let go, but realizing that every family of origin has a different way of doing things is an adjustment that may result in a few tears in a Walmart parking lot.
Spoiler alert: you and your husband probably have vastly different interests. Figuring out how to live and interact with someone who doesn’t share your same hobbies is something to work through. And in the end, you may just learn the names of a few new species of fish and he may learn to tolerate your One Direction DVD obsession.
Again, something that you know before you get married but can’t fully prepare for is how valuable it is to have a partner in life. Whether you have a tough decision to make, are having a rough day, or it’s just your run-of-the-mill Tuesday, having someone around to shoulder your burdens is just a gift.