Episode 16. You Can Do Anything: But You Can't Do Everything
Somehow there’s a myth that we buy into that says you have to be all things to all people ALL THE TIME. There’s no room for failure, you must be perfect, and you should make it look easy. We don’t know about yall, but this standard is impossible for us to live up to. This week, we debunk this myth in different facets of our lives in the hopes that maybe someone needed to hear it said that it’s okay if you don’t have it all together, sister. As a matter of fact, there’s no way you could!
Keeping up with your home can be a full time job and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the ongoing to-do list. As women, we feel the need to bear the burden alone and feel shame when it’s not done perfectly. But guess what? You don’t have to go it alone. There’s no shame in asking for help, hiring help, or, heaven forbid, just not getting it all done. That doesn’t mean we don’t deserve to relax if there are dishes in the sink. The work is never done, so just plop down on the couch, pour yourself a glass of wine, and give yourself some grace. If the laundry doesn’t get folded, if the closet doesn’t get vacuumed, if the dishes don’t get done, the world will not end. You is still smart, kind, and important.
Fitness and Health
2017 tells us we should feel shame for loving Sonic and if you’re not eating gluten-free, non processed, sugar free, raw, organic water, then you might as well eat a whole pizza and give up on life. Much like keeping up with your house, healthy eating can be a slippery slope, you could always be doing it better. But life is about balance, ya’ll. Your morality is not dependent upon what you eat, or don’t eat. Find out what works for you, live your best life, eat the brownie-it’s your life.
It’s been said there’s no such thing as a work life balance. Something always has to give. Especially if you work in a job that can be emotionally draining, it’s so important to draw the line of separation between work and life, or else there will be no life to balance. Your work doesn’t define you, and that’s okay. Give it all you got while you’re there, but make sure to make time for yourself and other facets of who you are. And giving 100% doesn’t always mean having all the answers. Admitting when you’re not the expert is so counterintuitive, but sometimes it’s the most helpful thing you can do. Letting a patient, or a student, or a client know that you can’t answer their question but you’re more than willing to consult someone who can doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.
- Not all of us can have an iphone 7 plus. Not all of us have the time or dedication to take the perfectly curated Instagram story. Social media can be a catalyst for the comparison game when you start to compare someone else’s highlight reel to your behind the scenes. But, you’re a strong independent woman and you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. If you need to move those apps way back to the second page of your phone or just delete them altogether, DO IT. Or if that’s not practical for you, just limit yourself to the amount of time you spend immersing yourself in that world. Your worth is not determined by the amount of times you’re retweeted.
Friendships are a tricky thing to maintain as we get older. On the one hand, you don’t have to yes to every social opportunity. If you want to stay at home with your cats and watch Friday Night Lights and go to bed at 9:00, that’s your prerogative and you don’t have to explain yourself to NOBODY. Self-care, relationship-care, whatever kind of care, is just as valid of a plan as having a dinner reservation with friends, and there’s no shame in that. But on the other, keeping up with friends is hard, especially if they don’t live nearby. Long gone are the days of putting someone in your top 8 and that being all it took to stay BFFs. Especially as you meet new people and juggle multiple groups of friends, it can be hard to be a good friend to everyone. If you want our advice on how to maintain friendships in your adult life, check out what we had to say in episode 9.