Episode 9. Make New Friends But Keep The Old: But Mostly Keep The Old
One is silver and the other’s gold. Kelsey and I have been friends since ‘92, and with many phone calls, text messages, Sonic trips, and a little bit of intentionality later, we’ve got TWENTY FIVE years of friendship under our belts. In this week’s episode, we share our tips and tricks for maintaining adult friendships despite distance, varying life stages, and shifting interests. You never know what a funny card in the mail or a trip to your favorite roller rink can do between friends.
Have phone dates. Get over your fear of having conversations with actual words instead of texts, and call your friends and catch up. There’s something to be said for hearing your friends’ voice IRL.
Have the right mindset: you can’t get angry when you haven’t talked to your friend for awhile. Be mindful of the fact that life happens and you’ll still be friends even if you haven’t talked for a month. You might have a “Jim and Pam Day” and that’s okay.
Be intentional. Be, be intentional.
Plan your phone calls to be sure you’re on the same schedule.
Be the first one to make the call to give your friend a nudge and let them know you’re ready to talk.
Keep each other informed about your everyday lives to keep you connected. It evokes those feelings of being able to spend every waking moment with your friends like you did when you were younger.
Send that random funny text. Tag your friend in that meme. Just do it.
Plan a weekly/monthly/yearly get together with your friends. Friend time isn’t going to plan itself, yall.
Harness the power of snail mail and send that card or send those books. Unless you’re going to stress over the packaging…
Start a podcast together. AKA, pick an activity you can to do together. If podcasting isn’t your thing, go on walks together, watch a show together, or take a barre class together.
Remember the things you had in common as kids and reenact those activities. Go to a roller rink, jump on a trampoline, eat bagel bites. Anything that is reminiscent of the time you met.
Pick a show or a book to start at the same time that you can talk about (AKA Real HOUZZWIVEZZ)
You might have to do things that you don’t love but your friends like in order to spend time together. Relationships require sacrifice.